Revolving Door Etiquette

May 16, 2007 at 10:30 am 6 comments

Last year, my boss and I were going to lunch and I mentioned after going through the revolving door, “You know, you’re allowed to go through these doors first.”  He said, “I know that, but most people don’t and I don’t want them to think I’m rude.”  My reply:  “Well, you know and I know, so let’s stop living a lie.” 

Peggy Post confirms this protocol:

 Traditionally, a man enters first. The thinking is that the male of the species, being physically stronger, should have an easier time starting the door spinning. While this is still a courteous thing to do, most people don’t know about the custom nowadays. 

Then yesterday, a new revolving door issue surfaced.  I entered the office through the revolving door with my cowoker,  and he asked me, “Are you a revolving door freeloader?”  With total honestly, I looked at him and replied in the affirmative.  I then took it as an opportunity to remind him that the gentleman is supposed to enter first to push the door for the lady.   

In my opinion, a lady in a revolving door with men is perfectly justified being a freeloader and exerting no force.  However, if it is all ladies going through the door, the Revolving Door Freeloader is an abomination–every lady must do her part.

So, while these rules may be little known, I know.  And now all of you know.  So, as I said to my boss:  Let’s stop living a lie!  Ladies, enter the revolving door behind the gentleman so he can do the heavy lifting.  However, if you are a lady entering with another lady, freeloading is not an option!  You’re going to have to roll up your sleeves and use your muscles. 

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Entry filed under: Commentary, LeMare's Posts, Manners and Grammar.

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6 Comments Add your own

  • 1. TRussell  |  May 16, 2007 at 12:07 pm

    sharing a module is also wrong, is it not? Although, I have always wanted to do that. You know the person is going to give you a look like you just asked them an inappropriate question – but then you get to look back as if to say, “What?” — fantastic!

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  • 2. lemare  |  May 16, 2007 at 12:31 pm

    One woman shared a quadrant with me once, and then immediately apologized and claimed it was inadvertant… I wonder if she was pulling a T.Russell and just wanted to see my reaction!

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  • 3. JL  |  May 16, 2007 at 1:19 pm

    What an enlightening post, thank you for pointing out this common misperception. You have taught me to never check my coat and to make DH go through the revolving door first.

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  • 4. Lowdogg  |  May 16, 2007 at 2:50 pm

    You are like the Emily Post of the blogosphere.

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  • 5. vaughan  |  February 21, 2009 at 6:55 am

    the chap should always do the lifting. on some occasions with a heavy door, he should also do an extra lap.

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  • 6. ptchiem  |  March 27, 2010 at 4:47 pm

    Revolving doors are not common where I’m from, but now I know what to do when with a woman friend. It’s so obviously logical that I’m surprised I did not think of it before! Thanks for this.

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